tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post2055081798133279275..comments2023-09-11T10:53:35.290-05:00Comments on When a Shrink Gets on the Couch: cave mommas are good enoughshrink on the couchhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13271891110211081990noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-15053438126717151212008-12-20T12:01:00.000-06:002008-12-20T12:01:00.000-06:00Just came back to read this again because I was a ...Just came back to read this again because I was a bad mom yesterday and I needed a little support!blognuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01161713516407124717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-3171567839891245782008-12-20T01:11:00.000-06:002008-12-20T01:11:00.000-06:00Totally. I want all magazines to publish this as ...Totally. I want all magazines to publish this as an article.<BR/><BR/>Even TIME and NEWSWEEK.<BR/><BR/>And RUNNER'S WORLD.Jocelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03227519811818290510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-41648115897186055622008-12-19T23:30:00.000-06:002008-12-19T23:30:00.000-06:00Loved this post! And especially the image of the c...Loved this post! And especially the image of the cave mommas. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for expanding on the discussion. I always enjoy your perspective.JCKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04582581376724478366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-80766490788321372892008-12-19T14:51:00.000-06:002008-12-19T14:51:00.000-06:00sometimes i feel like it's harder on me than it is...sometimes i feel like it's harder on me than it is on them -- cuz i'm taking myself to seriously and expecting to much of myself so much of the time.Madgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14905740781186585499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-78825814797686964172008-12-19T14:11:00.000-06:002008-12-19T14:11:00.000-06:00Oh yes, definitely. I have my moments when I pani...Oh yes, definitely. I have my moments when I panic about being a "rubbish" mother but they are fleeting (and horrid). <BR/><BR/>I think it helps to have quite a few children - you become more philosophical about it all. In the olden days women would have so many children they didn't have time to fuss about all the things we do, or worry about this and that. <BR/><BR/>It is hard to avoid "Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-73938516697546399302008-12-19T00:32:00.000-06:002008-12-19T00:32:00.000-06:00I love that painting.I love that painting.Norahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507644743409364179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-32023045766322078212008-12-18T20:34:00.000-06:002008-12-18T20:34:00.000-06:00not to mention: being that over striving mom is ju...not to mention: being that over striving mom is just too exhausting to pull off for long!<BR/><BR/>every once in a while some fabulousness is ok, every once in a while, horrid is ok .... but a nice steady run of the mill average is what i work for .... <BR/><BR/>that said, i'm pushing up hill trying to get back to average ...e.beck.artisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00432428302655258370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-38938358543313239042008-12-18T07:36:00.000-06:002008-12-18T07:36:00.000-06:00ummmmmmm....this is me nodding vigerously.ummmmmmm....this is me nodding vigerously.Mary Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08923591889426758103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-47053802237355906112008-12-18T06:57:00.000-06:002008-12-18T06:57:00.000-06:00I try to remember that since I CARE if I'm good en...I try to remember that since I CARE if I'm good enough, I AM good enough.<BR/><BR/>Though, when your almost 3-year-old looks at you and says "no screamin' Mama" when I give him that look, it's difficult not to feel a twinge.<BR/><BR/>I'm trying! I'm trying!!<BR/><BR/>EmAshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00084508582913500810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-83309310605244506582008-12-18T01:43:00.000-06:002008-12-18T01:43:00.000-06:00thanks for the good feelin' comment on my blog! i ...thanks for the good feelin' comment on my blog! i don't think very many people at all actually read it haha. so, you went to college for psychology? i am wanting to major in psych. any tips?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-79225605016118709742008-12-18T00:21:00.000-06:002008-12-18T00:21:00.000-06:00Thanks for stopping by my blog and thanks SO much ...Thanks for stopping by my blog and thanks SO much for this message. With an infant (soon to be a toddler) I'm still coming out of the haze of sleepless nights and the feeling that this little person is utterly dependent on me and will be (!) for life. I know they get more independent at some point and I won't need to be "on" all the time and can be good enough. How wonderful!Coffeegrljapanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848101070810301786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-40466146505118257432008-12-17T22:17:00.000-06:002008-12-17T22:17:00.000-06:00Can you send me this post about once a week? Bett...Can you send me this post about once a week? Better yet, I'll print it and pin it to my shirt as soon as I finish baking those last-minute teacher gift cookies tonight.blognuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01161713516407124717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-30519331675395050932008-12-17T20:28:00.000-06:002008-12-17T20:28:00.000-06:00If you have to think about it, you're good enough....If you have to think about it, you're good enough.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-48079594229324343492008-12-17T20:05:00.000-06:002008-12-17T20:05:00.000-06:00margo -- I read the Agreements several years ago a...margo -- I read the Agreements several years ago and I had forgotten the "Do Your Best" part. Thanks for the reminder and validation from a published source.<BR/><BR/>jesi -- thanks for visiting and glad you like what you see. <BR/><BR/>becca -- you're welcome. its a message that I, personally, cannot hear often enough.shrink on the couchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13271891110211081990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-4104246220153513982008-12-17T19:02:00.000-06:002008-12-17T19:02:00.000-06:00thank you, I so needed to hear that todaythank you, I so needed to hear that todayAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03707312160893238672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-91293546828126977182008-12-17T17:23:00.000-06:002008-12-17T17:23:00.000-06:00I love this blog. So happy I found it. Now, I don'...I love this blog. So happy I found it. Now, I don't have kids, but, just coming out of being a teenager, I totally get this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-61721517608755493582008-12-17T15:25:00.000-06:002008-12-17T15:25:00.000-06:00The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz teaches som...The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz teaches something along these sames lines. The fourth agreement is "Do Your Best" which sounds kind of aggressively perfect at first, but is meant to be understood as doing your best at any given time which accepts and allows for normal ups and downs covering bad days, illness, and what we call mistakes. And I agree with Jenn that often the kids turn out Margohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15813140073356995390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-63617807641845428142008-12-17T14:59:00.000-06:002008-12-17T14:59:00.000-06:00melissa -- you mean the "tell me about your mother...melissa -- you mean the "tell me about your mother..." right? haha. I didn't notice that!<BR/><BR/>mrs g -- benign neglect is a great concept too and a valuable parenting tool. helicopter parents could stand a dose of understanding this.<BR/><BR/>heather -- I loved that book. Good reference too. <BR/><BR/>one brick -- we know you're not a complete failure, I mean your daughter still has a shrink on the couchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13271891110211081990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-74677788471343038802008-12-17T13:39:00.000-06:002008-12-17T13:39:00.000-06:00But, I don't want to be "good enough"! I want to ...But, I don't want to be "good enough"! I want to be DAMN GOOD. Though, there are times I feel like a cavewoman. (No makeup, no shower, haven't shaved my legs in days, so tired I can only grunt in acknowledgement)Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13164420416881517854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-35315508870250779372008-12-17T11:15:00.000-06:002008-12-17T11:15:00.000-06:00Wow. I really needed to read this today. I am st...Wow. I really needed to read this today. I am struggling through my teenage daughter's ADD issues at school and feeling like a complete failure at the moment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-34621597415251306282008-12-17T11:14:00.000-06:002008-12-17T11:14:00.000-06:00Thanks, I needed that. It's the Christmas season a...Thanks, I needed that. It's the Christmas season and I feel like I'm living the first chapter of <I>I Don't Know How She Does It</I>. So I decree that there shall be no 3 am decorating of gingerbread men and bourbon balls in cute little tins for teachers this year and I shall be none the lesser a mother! A-ha!Heather Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06066996569042347677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-60676274844932407012008-12-17T10:17:00.000-06:002008-12-17T10:17:00.000-06:00I practice good enough mothering with a healthy do...I practice good enough mothering with a healthy dose of benign neglect.Mrs. G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01171997573144385692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-14520794067294278792008-12-17T09:44:00.000-06:002008-12-17T09:44:00.000-06:00Mommy has a boiling point. Yes, my kids got that m...Mommy has a boiling point. Yes, my kids got that memo a long time ago.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-88944558219439428152008-12-17T09:28:00.000-06:002008-12-17T09:28:00.000-06:00Ok, your little comment header is pretty funny in ...Ok, your little comment header is pretty funny in the context of this post.<BR/><BR/>I've been trying to do that more lately, especially since the guys are getting older (grades 3 and 5). I'm still a mama bear, but they need to be able to live outside the cave at some point.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14599462281364463565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4511287927381998273.post-31143096209669976562008-12-17T05:05:00.000-06:002008-12-17T05:05:00.000-06:00kids are resilient. If only their mothers were.kids are resilient. If only their mothers were.Vodka Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04734323418017847775noreply@blogger.com